Well if anything, 2016 has been good at providing me with lessons I did not necessarily want to learn.
Financial / Professional lessons
- Money does make the world go round. No money, no possibility of maintaining previous living standards for long. Even if you had been diligent and economic earlier, there’s only so long that savings last.
- No matter how much a potential employer insists that they are in need of filling given position as soon as possible, they will never be in as much a hurry as you are. And when 4 months go by, it is past time to take the hint and maybe look elsewhere.
- Job hunting takes time. A lot of time. Not just the reading through the ads, filling in mind numbing application forms, tailor writing personal statements and chewing your nails while you wait to hear back after the deadline. No. Even after the interview invite, there is the 2 weeks until interview itself, another waiting period to hear back, and even you were successful, there’s HR to get in touch, sort contracts, references, security checks. From reading the ad to actually starting a job, two months may have gone by, and it is very likely that your wages will take at least a month from your start date to arrive into your bank account. By then you are scraping baked beans from the bottom of the pan, and nobody cares.
- While earlier when I was on hourly wage I asked myself, would I want to spend X number of hours at work to buy a certain something, now I ask myself, is X percent of my rent equivalent of money worth spending on this item?
- You may feel entitled to a good job after spending 5 years at university and working your ass off both academically and outwith to get by at the same time, but when graduation is over and you are out in the big bad world, you quickly realise that you are not so special. All those classmates you spent the previous years with bitching about the academic workload while dreaming about a good job after university are now your competition.
Lessons from my personal life
- No matter how close you are to someone, they can still surprise you.
- No matter how you daydream about the perfect, ideal world, no matter how vivid the details and how well developed the ideas are, it will never be reality.
- When you think surely, things cannot get worse… they will.
- The ties that bind two people, no matter how numerous, are very fragile.
- At the end of the day, it is very unlikely that the person you want to put all your faith in, who you want to trust with holding your world, will actually be interested, capable, or ready to do so. It’s probably best if you keep some responsibility for yourself.
- A castle in the clouds will never be suitable as a long term accommodation.
- You forge your own path in life. It is naive to blame fate or destiny for your own bad decisions or indecisions.
- When you think it’s too late to start over, that’s exactly when you should start over.